This guide offers parents fresh perspectives and simple skills to encourage good behavior in children and reduce stress for the entire family. Emphasizing personal choice, free will, and dispassionate parentchild interactions, Dr. William H. Hughes's stepbystep approach has been developed, tested, and proven to work time and again by child psychiatrists.Dr. Hughes demonstrates how parents must allow their children to decide for themselves whether they will cooperate and how they will act. Effective parenting builds character and increases selfconfidence. Here, kids learn that they can choose to behave -- and be rewarded for it. Dr. Hughes recommends that parents:
Set expectations. Make clear what the expected behavior is, whether it's doing homework or taking out the trash.
Monitor behavior. Keep an eye on what children are supposed to be doing, but let them decide for themselves whether they will complete the task.
Reward. Verbally praise good behavior and offer kids a reward. Let them play video games for an hour or invite a friend to a sleepover. Many parents are convinced that reward systems simply do not work. Dr. Hughes explains why his approach gets the desired results while other approaches do not. By not engaging in power struggles and giving rewards only when expectations have been met, parents teach their kids that in choosing good behavior they are choosing rewards -- and rewards will motivate kids to act better. Dr. Hughes also outlines a clear strategy for dealing with kids who just won't take no for an answer. The book encourages parents to modify their own behavior, teaching them to shift their focus away from battling with their kids and to use their energy to help their children develop winning habits and attitudes for life.''Dr. Hughes has written a guide for parenting based on a stepbystep progression to behavior change. The book is filled with reallife examples and leavened with a sense of humor, all from a distinguished and knowledgeable expert in the field.'' -- Robert L. Hendren, D.O., President, American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry''Parents who read this book and begin to practice these parenting fundamentals have a good chance of reducing current problems and preventing other problems before they occur, but more importantly, effective parents give their children a chance to have the personal discipline and positive sense of self that is crucial for successful living.'' -- John T. Walkup, M.D., The Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, from the foreword
Foreword, by John T. Walkup, M.D.PrefaceIntroduction1. When Is a Problem a Problem?2. Illness, Stress, and Personality Development3. A Parent's Dilemma: Insist and Cause Conflict or Don't Insist and Walk on Eggshells4. The Failed Inspection5. Why Rewards Don't Work and Why Rewards Do Matter6. Laying the Foundation for a Schedule7. Putting Together a Schedule8. Homework9. When Evening Comes10. Weekends, Holidays, and Long-Term Rewards11. Troubleshooting: Complaining, Disrespectful, Out-of-Control Behavior12. Presenting the Schedule to Your Child13. Teaching VirtueConclusionReferencesIndex
""[It] gave me a lot of food for thought. I think most families could pull useful ideas from this book.""
