Don't you wish relationships came with a manual? Ashley Stanford has written a user's guide to relationships that adopts a practical troubleshooting approach to resolving difficulties that will greatly appeal to the logical minds of individuals on the autism spectrum, as well as offering valuable guidance to their partners.Troubleshooting identifies problems and makes them fixable. This book presents a three step troubleshooting process that can diffuse even the trickiest relationship dilemma. Specific problem areas are covered in detail including communication, executive functioning, mindblindness, attachment, intimacy, co-habiting, and raising a family. The book offers straightforward solution-focused strategies and additional help is giving in the form of bulleted lists, summaries, scripts, and example scenarios.
Introduction.; 1. Why Troubleshooting Works - Top 10 Reasons.; 2. How Troubleshooting Works - Three Steps.; 3. Fixing the Problem Versus Fixing Each Other.; 4. Nearly Any Problem Can be Resolved When it is Small.; 5. Troubleshooting Conversations.; 6. Troubleshooting Executive Function Issues - Planning and Scheduling.; 7. Troubleshooting in the Bedroom - Sensual Sharing.; 8. Troubleshooting Your Personal Attachment Style - Secure, Avoidant, or Anxious.; 9. Troubleshooting Reciprocity - Tips and Tricks to Create Respect in your Relationship.; 10. Troubleshooting Continuity of the Relationship - Monogamy, Faithfulness, and BFFs.; 11. Troubleshooting Existence Together - Inside the Home.; 12. Troubleshooting in the Wild - Outside the Home.; 13. Troubleshooting Obsessions and Priorities - Choosing What to Do with your Time.; 14. Troubleshooting with Children - When a Couple Becomes a Family.; 15. Troubleshooting Mindblindness - The Universe is Us.; 16. Troubleshooting Misunderstandings - How to Get Off the Ledge.; 17. Troubleshooting Complaints - Toxicity in Relationships.; 18. Troubleshooting Whether to Stay or Go - Break Ties or Keep Trying?; 19. Troubleshooting Blockades to Personal Bliss - Finding What Works for You.; 20. Optimism, Pessimism, and How to Be a Partner (Not a Parent).; 21. Identifying and Celebrating Improvements. Resources and Recommended Reading.
""Too many variables"", Ashley Stanford's husband declares about relationships in her opening paragraph of this different and very comprehensive ""manual"" to maintaining an autism spectrum relationship. He's so right! This guide takes those variables back to their individual components and helps the reader construct new ways to look and deal with issues that AS couples experience every single day. A thought-provoking book for couples and the professionals who work with them.
