Owning Up

Rosalind Wiseman is the founder of Cultures of Dignity, an organization that shifts the way communities think about our physical and emotional well-being by working in close partnership with the experts of those communities-young people, educators, policy makers, and business and political leaders. Her other recent Corwin publication is Owning Up: Empowering Adolescents to Create Cultures of Dignity and Confront Social Cruelty and Injustice (2020), a comprehensive social justice program for grades 4-12 which is in widespread use across the world. She is the author of the New York Times Best Sellers Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the groundbreaking book that was the basis for the movie and Broadway Musical Mean Girls; and Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World, which addresses the social lives of boys and was awarded Best Parenting Book by Books for a Better Life. Follow her on Twitter at @cultureodignity.

Foreword by Donna Hicks Acknowledgments About the Author Introduction 6th Grade Session 1: Getting Started-And (Hopefully) Not Wasting Your Time Beach Ball Questions-Sixth Grade Handout Session 2: Dignity and Respect-Words That Matter Drawing Dignity and Respect-Sixth Grade Handout Session 3: Listening to Each Other-Giving and Getting Advice Ally-Sixth Grade Handout Giving and Getting Advice-Sixth Grade Handout Session 4: Just Kidding-Why Are We Really Laughing? Session 5: Understanding Anger-Managing a Difficult Emotion Anger and Your Brain-Sixth Grade Handout Iceberg-Sixth Grade Handout Session 6: SEAL-I Know What the Problem Is, but How Do I Fix It? Applying SEAL-Sixth Grade Handout Session 7: Apologies-What's a True Apology? True or Fake Apologies?-Sixth Grade Handout Session 8: Friendships-Developing Good Friendships Friendship Bill of Rights-Sixth Grade Handout Session 9: Navigating Friend Groups-When Friendships Are Complicated Session 10: They Said What?-How to Stop Rumors and Gossip Session 11: When and How Do I Speak Out?-Building Empathy and Courage in Bystanders Bystanding-Sixth Grade Handout Session 12: Getting Out of the Box-Are We Boxed Into Gender Norms? Session 13: Double Standards-Are People Being Treated Fairly? Double Standards Scenarios-Sixth Grade Handout Knowing What to Say-Sixth Grade Handout Session 14: Understanding Advertising-What's My Style? Analyzing Ads-Sixth Grade Handout Session 15: Getting Past the Products-The Influence of Advertising Interview an Adult-Sixth Grade Handout Session 16: The Mirror-How Do We See Ourselves? How Do We Want Others to See Us? Session 17: Talking With Adults-How Do We Communicate Effectively? Helping Adults-Sixth Grade Handout Session 18: Managing Technology-It's Not All Bad I < 3 Technology-Sixth Grade Handout Session 19: What Do You Share?-Deciding What to Post Online What Do You Share?-Sixth Grade Handout Session 20: Why Do You Share?-Knowing Why You Post Online Pleasing the Invisible Audience-Sixth Grade Handout Session 21: Do They Like Me?-Crushes and Rejection This Stuff Is So Complicated!-Sixth Grade Handout Session 22: Recognizing and Respecting Boundaries-How Far Is Too Far? Session 23: Sexual Harassment-It's Complicated Session 24: Race and Bias-What Do We Really See? Session 25: Race and Bias-Did I Say Something Wrong? Session 26: Concluding the Program-Please Say You Learned Something! I Am . . . -Sixth Grade Handout 7th Grade Session 1: Getting Started-And (Hopefully) Not Wasting Your Time Session 2: Dignity and Respect-Words That Matter Drawing Dignity and Respect-Seventh Grade Handout Session 3: Listening to Each Other-Giving and Getting Advice Advice Situations-Seventh Grade Handout Ally-Seventh Grade Handout Session 4: Just Kidding-Why Are We Really Laughing? Session 5: Understanding Anger-Managing a Difficult Emotion Hiding and Showing Anger-Seventh Grade Handout Session 6: SEAL-I Know What the Problem Is, but How Do I Fix It? Session 7: Apologies-What's a True Apology? True or Fake Apologies?-Seventh Grade Handout Session 8: Friendships-Developing Good Friendships Friendship Bill of Rights-Seventh Grade Handout Session 9: Navigating Friend Groups-When Friendships Are Complicated Group Conflict-Seventh Grade Handout Session 10: They Said What?-How to Stop Rumors and Gossip Definition Game-Seventh Grade Handout Session 11: When and How Do I Speak Out?-Building Empathy and Courage in Bystanders Bystanding-Seventh Grade Handout Session 12: Getting Out of the Box-Are We Boxed Into Gender Norms? Session 13: Double Standards-Are People Being Treated Fairly? Session 14: Understanding Advertising-What's My Style? Analyzing Ads-Seventh Grade Handout What's Authentic?-Seventh Grade Handout Session 15: Getting Past the Products-How Does the Advertising Affect Me? Are You a Walking Advertisement?-Seventh Grade Handout Interview an Adult-Seventh Grade Handout Session 16: The Mirror-How Do We See Ourselves? How Do We See Others? The Armor Handout Session 17: Talking With Adults-How Do We Communicate Effectively? Helping Adults-Seventh Grade Handout Session 18: Managing Technology-It's Not All Bad Session 19: What Do You Share?-Deciding What to Post Online What Do You Share?-Seventh Grade Handout Session 20: Why Do You Share?-Knowing Why You Post Online Pleasing the Invisible Audience-Seventh Grade Handout Thinking About What We Share-Seventh Grade Handout Session 21: Do They Like Me?-Crushes and Rejection This Stuff Is So Complicated!-Seventh Grade Handout Session 22: Recognizing and Respecting Boundaries-How Far Is Too Far? Thinking About Boundaries-Seventh Grade Handout Session 23: Sexual Harassment-It's Complicated Session 24: Race and Bias-What Do We Really See? What Do You Say?-Seventh Grade Handout Session 25: Race and Bias-Did I Say Something Wrong? I Really Don't Know-Seventh Grade Handout Session 26: Concluding the Program-Please Say You Learned Something! I Am . . . -Seventh Grade Handout 8th Grade Session 1: Getting Started-And (Hopefully) Not Wasting Your Time Session 2: Dignity and Respect-Words That Matter Drawing Dignity and Respect-Eighth Grade Handout Session 3: Listening to Each Other-Giving and Getting Support Ally-Eighth Grade Handout Support Network-Eighth Grade Handout Session 4: Just Kidding-Why Are We Really Laughing? Session 5: Understanding Anger-Managing a Difficult Emotion Understanding Anger-Eighth Grade Handout Session 6: SEAL-I Know What the Problem Is, but How Do I Fix It? Session 7: Apologies-What's a True Apology? Session 8: Friendships-Developing Good Friendships Thinking About Vulnerability-Eighth Grade Handout Session 9: Navigating Friend Groups-When Friendships Are Complicated Group Conflict-Eighth Grade Handout Session 10: They Said What?-How to Stop Rumors and Gossip Session 11: When and How Do I Speak Out?-Building Empathy and Courage in Bystanders What Really Happened?-Eighth Grade Handout Session 12: Getting Out of the Box-Are We Boxed Into Gender Norms? How Do These Rules Affect You?-Eighth Grade Handout Session 13: Reputations and Double Standards-Are People Being Treated Fairly? Session 14: Understanding Advertising-What's My Style? Session 15: Getting Past the Products-The Influence of Advertising Are You a Walking Advertisement?-Eighth Grade Handout Interview an Adult-Eighth Grade Handout Session 16: The Mirror-How Do We See Ourselves? How Do We See Others? What's Up With Labels?-Eighth Grade Handout Session 17: Talking With Adults-How Do We Communicate Effectively? Helping Adults-Eighth Grade Handout Session 18: Managing Technology-It's Not All Bad Session 19: What Do You Share?-Deciding What to Post Online Session 20: Why Do You Share?-Knowing Why You Post Online Flip Chart Questions-Eighth Grade Handout Social Media Armor-Eighth Grade Handout Session 21: Do They Like Me?-Crushes and Rejection This Stuff Is So Complicated!-Eighth Grade Handout Session 22: Recognizing and Respecting Boundaries-How Far Is Too Far? Giving and Getting Consent-Eighth Grade Handout Session 23: Sexual Harassment-It's Complicated Session 24: Race and Bias-What Do We Really See? What Do You Say?-Eighth Grade Handout Session 25: Race and Bias-Did I Say Something Wrong? Session 26: Concluding the Program-Please Say You Learned Something! What Are You Proud Of?-Eighth Grade Handout Owning Up Pretest Owning Up Posttest Appendix A: Parent Welcome Letter (English) Appendix B: Parent Welcome Letter (Spanish) Resource Guide