Foreword, Harry T. Reis1. Motivating Responsiveness: Why a Smart Relationship Unconscious?2. Procedural Rules for Responsiveness: The Motivation-Management Model3. Trust: When to Approach?4. Commitment: How Close a Connection?5. The Situational Risks: Seek Connection or Avoid Rejection?6. The Rules for Seeking Connection: Increase and Justify Own Dependence7. The Rules for Avoiding Rejection: Withhold Own and Promote Partner Dependence8. Relationship Personality: Making Certain Rules a Habit9. Being Swept Away: How Passionate Love Makes It Natural to Connect.10. Being Mowed Over: How Real Life Makes It Natural to Self-Protect11. How the Person, the Pairing, and the Context Make (or Break) Relationships12. A Practical Guide for Relationships