Sophia Graham is a therapist and trainer who brings a neuroqueer approach to Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training. She writes articles about sexuality, disability, relationships and mental health on her blog, Love Uncommon (https://loveuncommon.com/). She lives in Massachusetts.
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Many of us find ourselves in friendships and partnerships which fail to nourish us, or which even repeat patterns that harm us badly. How to Build Resilient Relationships is a much-needed book which returns us to the basic building blocks of how to form and nurture relationships which most of us never learnt growing up. With relatable examples, and encouraging words, Sophia Graham introduces a range of powerful tools for developing our own sense of safety and capacity, and for relating from this place in a boundaried, consensual, and mutual way. Whether you want to find friends, nurture deeper intimacy, move through relationship difficulties, or learn how to repair ruptures, this is the book for you. -- Meg-John Barker, author of Rewriting the Rules, and co-author of How to Understand Your Relationships
Such a rare gem. Dr Graham has not only succeeded in including a range of perspectives that address the experiences of neurodivergent and multiply marginalized folks, but she has also excelled at combining critical insights and practical tools. I love how this book offers ideas, questions for reflections, and things to try out to relate intentionally and skillfully, while not being prescriptive or dogmatic. The expert way in which our physical, mental, emotional, and relational needs are woven together is also invaluable, especially since this type of biopsychosocial approach is hard to find in books on this topic. While its not the magical instruction manual we might secretly hope for, this book is far more valuable as a gentle, wise, aware, and brilliant companion in the journey towards the resilient connections many of us long for. -- from the foreword by Alex Iantaffi, author of Gender Trauma and How to Understand Your Relationships