Beverly Engel is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and expert on the subject of trauma. She has written 25 books on the related subjects of abuse, shame and empowerment, including The Emotionally Abusive Relationship and Healing Your Emotional Self. Her books have been translated into many languages, including: Spanish, Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Greek, Turkish, Lithuanian and Polish. She has a blog on Psychology Today entitled The Compassion Chronicles and her writing has been featured in Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Cleveland Plain Dealer, and The Denver Post.
Description
Introduction Chapter 1: Why We Can't Leave the Past in the Past Chapter 2: What Was Your Trauma? Chapter 3: What If I'm Not Sure If I Was Traumatized? Part II: The Ways in Which We Reenact Trauma Chapter 4: The Most Common Type of Reenactment: Relational Reenactments Chapter 5: Re-victimization Reenactments Chapter 6: Repeating What Was Done to You Chapter 7: Sexual Reenactments Part III. Eliminating the Need to Reenact Chapter 8: Emotions Part 1: Identifying and Releasing the Emotions Attached to Trauma Chapter 9: Emotions Part 2: The Feelings of Trauma: One by One Chapter 10: Healing Conversations: Part 1: Speak Your Truth Chapter 11: Healing Conversations: Part 2: Resolving Your Relationship with Your Parents and Other Abusers Chapter 12: Examine and Change Unhealthy Core Beliefs Conclusion: Moving Forward: Repairing the Damage and Ongoing Healing Practices Acknowledgments Bibliography Recommended Types of Therapy Recommended Reading
Reviews
"Beverly Engel has created a wonderful literary resource for trauma survivors--a well-thought-out, easy-to-understand guide on how to heal from cycles of trauma reenactment. This book helps you understand why you continue to find yourself in unhealthy relationships, or why you may have turned out exactly like your mother or father despite your best efforts not to. Beverly's well-researched guide feels very much like a warm, caring therapist helping you understand how trauma has impacted you and how to navigate your healing journey. If you have ever found yourself repeating unhealthy patterns or cycles, or attracting toxic people over and over, this book will give you newfound clarity and raise your self-awareness. Even if it seems you have read every book on trauma imaginable, you will learn something new in this one. What I love most about this book is the normalization of human experiences of pain and how easy it is to become stuck in hurtful places. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is recovering from trauma." --Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC, psychotherapist and creator of the A Date with Darkness podcast "It's amazing how unaware we can be to the fact that we are reenacting a past trauma in our present lives--whether it be continually getting involved with abusive or rejecting partners or becoming abusive or rejecting ourselves. In this powerful book Beverly Engel helps readers to identify their reenactments and shows them how to discover their origin. Then she expertly guides readers through a program to help them process their trauma and unfinished business and break free from their past. I enthusiastically recommend this book for anyone who is stuck in destructive patterns." --Randi Kreger, author of the Stop Walking on Eggshells series of books "Beverly Engel's new book on trauma is a comprehensive, powerful, and in-depth workbook for identifying and healing trauma, including unremembered trauma, because 'symptoms and triggers are your memories.' It's an incredible resource for psychotherapists and anyone who has behaviors and relationship issues that have been resistant to change." --Darlene Lancer, LMFT, author of Conquering Shame and Codependency and Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist "For decades Beverly Engel has been an important source of understanding, support, and healing for many survivors. This book will, no doubt, be a valuable addition to the recovery literature, and will inspire its readers in their recovery." --Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer "Unconscious reenactment patterns can wreak havoc on trauma survivors' lives and the lives of those who love them. Beverly Engel skillfully and thoroughly addresses this important and often-overlooked topic in Put Your Past in the Past. The book includes excellent reflections and practices to help readers identify and eliminate a deep-rooted need to reenact, freeing them from some of the strongest and most painful binds to their past." --Erika Shershun, LMFT, author of Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook